Say what you MEAN, for the love of God

Mom of an autistic kid here.  I will call you out for using the word "retarded."

If you want to say something is stupid, then use the word stupid.  Don't use retarded, gay, queer, or another word that actually means something else but you are using as a synonym for "stupid."

You know why?  Because "stupid" is a derogatory term.

Retarded is not.  It means someone is medically slow or delayed.  It's not derogatory.  But when you use "retarded" to mean "stupid," you are using "retarded" as a derogatory term.  By association, "retarded" becomes a derogatory term.

Gay is not.  Originally, gay meant that someone was happy or jovial.  It can still be used in that sense.  The more modern meaning of gay is that someone is homosexual.  Being homosexual is not bad.  Being gay is not bad.  "Gay" is not a derogatory term.  But when you use "gay" to mean "stupid," you are using "gay" as a derogatory term.  By association, "gay" becomes a derogatory term.

Queer is not.  Originally, queer meant that something was strange or odd.  It can still be used in that sense.  The more modern meaning of queer refers to a person in the LGBTQ community, but I haven't figured out exactly what queer means in that context.  Being queer is not bad.  "Queer" is not a derogatory term.  But when you use "queer" to mean "stupid," you are using "queer" as a derogatory term.  By association, "queer" becomes a derogatory term.

Are you getting the point I'm trying to make yet?

Say what you ACTUALLY MEAN, for the love of God.  Quit using words like retarded, gay, queer, etc.  Quit calling people those things as if those are bad terms.  If a person is gay, then sure, use the term gay.  But don't call a person gay as if being gay is bad or you're using "gay" as slang for "bad" or "stupid."  If a person is being stupid, then just say to that person, "You're being stupid."

And yes, some of you will think I'm being overly sensitive and that I should just get over it.  If you're one of those people, you were probably one of the outgoing, popular kids in school who had people vying for your attention.  You probably called people like me fat or pug-nosed.  You might be thinking, "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me."  Bullshit.  Have you looked at the statistics on teen suicides following real-life or online bullying?  Bullshit.  Words HURT.  They break down self-esteem, they hurt feelings, they leave internal scars.  Words can absolutely hurt, and that's why we can legally prosecute people for mental and emotional abuse.

Why am I putting this post here, in the midst of political stuff?  Because revolution is about change, and some of y'all need to change the words you use.  I will judge you for using these words (or ones like them) to demean and insult people.  I will call you out for using those words.  I will do it nicely--the first time--but I will still call you out on your shit.

So go forth and just say what you mean.

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